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What to say at a networking event when you don't know anyone
Walk up to someone standing alone and say: "Mind if I join you? I don't know anyone here either." It works because it is true, it gives the other person an easy yes, and it names the thing you are both already feeling. You do not need a clever line. You need one sentence you have said out loud before you arrive.
The three openers that actually work
- The honest one. "Mind if I join you? I don't know anyone here either." Best on a person standing alone — which, at any event, is most people at some point in the night.
- The logistics one. "Is this your first time at one of these?" It works on anyone, it has no wrong answer, and it hands them the talking.
- The shared-situation one. "How did you end up here?" People like answering this. It is a story question disguised as small talk.
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What to say after the first line
The opener is not the hard part — the next ninety seconds are. Have two follow-up questions ready before you arrive, tied to this room rather than to them personally: what brought you here, what are you working on, what's been the best thing you've seen today.
If your mind goes blank, describe the room. "That coffee queue is not moving." Shared circumstance is the cheapest conversational fuel there is, and nobody has ever been judged for mentioning it.
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How to leave without it being awkward
Say the true thing plus a next step: "I'm going to grab a drink — it was good to meet you." You do not owe anyone an excuse. Ending a conversation cleanly is a kindness, not a rejection, and it is what lets you talk to more than one person all evening.
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Prepare the opener before you go
Every line above works better if you have said it out loud once. That is the whole idea behind Haveo: write your intro, rehearse it by speaking, and keep it one tap away in your pocket when the room gets loud.
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Rehearse it before you walk in.
Haveo builds your intro, lets you practice out loud with an AI coach, and keeps your notes one tap away in the room. Free on iPhone and iPad.
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Which groups to approach, where to stand, what to say, and why a group of four is easier to join than two people. - What to say when your mind goes blank
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A sentence that works whether you are employed, freelancing, studying or between things — and what to do with the pause afterwards. - Small talk questions that are not boring
Twelve questions that get a real answer instead of one word, why the weather question fails, and how to follow up on what you get. - How to introduce two people to each other
The two-line introduction that leaves them with something to talk about, and why doing it is the fastest way to be useful in a room. - The mistakes that actually cost you something
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