Haveo · What to say at a networking event when you don't know anyone

Small talk questions that are not boring

Ask about the present and the specific. "What are you working on at the moment?" beats "what do you do?" because it has an answer the person actually finds interesting. A good question is one they have not answered nine times tonight.

Twelve that work

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Why the standard ones fail

"What do you do?" asks for a label, and it lands badly on anyone between jobs or doing something hard to say in three words.

The weather is not a bad opener, it is a bad second question. It has no follow-up, so the conversation has to be restarted immediately.

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The follow-up matters more than the question

Whatever they answer, go one level deeper rather than moving on: how did that go, what made you pick that, what was the hard part.

Most conversations die because both people keep introducing new topics instead of finishing one.

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Two is enough to prepare

You do not need twelve in your head. Pick two you would actually say out loud and they will carry an entire evening.

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Rehearse it before you walk in.

Haveo builds your intro, lets you practice out loud with an AI coach, and keeps your notes one tap away in the room. Free on iPhone and iPad.

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Common questions

Are these too personal for a work event?
None of them asks anything private. They ask about work and interests, just in the present tense, which is what makes them answerable.
What if they give a one-word answer?
Take it at face value and follow up once. If the second one is also short, they may not want to talk — move on, it is not a verdict on you.
Is it strange to ask who else I should talk to?
It is one of the best questions in the room. People like being the person who made an introduction, and you often get walked over to someone.
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