Haveo · What to say at a networking event when you don't know anyone
How to join a group that is already talking
Approach a group of three or more, never a pair. Stand at the edge of the circle, wait for a pause rather than a gap in one sentence, and say "mind if I join you?" Most groups widen without breaking stride.
Pick the right group
Three or more. A pair is usually mid-conversation and there is no physical space in the shape they are standing in.
Look for a circle with a gap in it. People leave that gap without noticing, and it is an invitation whether or not anyone means it as one.
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Stand there first
Move to the edge and face in. Do not say anything for a few seconds. This is normal and nobody finds it strange.
You will usually be absorbed without having to ask, because somebody will glance over and widen the circle.
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If you do need words
"Mind if I join you?" is enough. So is "sorry, I heard you say [thing] — what happened in the end?"
The second one is better when you have actually heard something, because it gives them a reason to include you rather than just permission.
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Then listen for a minute
Do not open with your own subject. Take the thread that is running and add to it.
The fastest way to be unwelcome in a group is to arrive and change the topic to yourself.
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If it does not work
Occasionally a group is genuinely closed — two people solving something, or a conversation that was private. Say "sorry, carry on" and move. It is not about you and it costs nothing.
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Rehearse it before you walk in.
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