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Autistic at work

The job is usually not the hard part. The cost is the environment and the unscheduled social layer around the work — open plan noise, the small talk, the meeting with no agenda. Those are changeable, and more of them than people expect.

What costs, and what does not

The work itself is often the part that goes well, and that is worth saying because the exhaustion gets misread as not coping with the job.

The cost is the noise, the lighting, the interruption, the arrival small talk, and the meetings whose shape is never stated.

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Ask for the shape of things

Agendas in advance, written briefs, being told what a meeting is for, and what decision is being made and by whom.

These read as good practice rather than accommodations, so they are almost always granted, and they help everybody in the room.

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The environment is negotiable

A desk away from the walkway, a booked room for focused work, headphones as normal, or a day at home for anything that needs sustained attention.

Most offices will agree to these if asked specifically and one at a time.

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The social layer

Arrival small talk, lunch, the after-work thing. Doing some of it deliberately costs less than avoiding all of it, because avoiding all of it is what gets read as distance.

Pick which ones and go to those properly. There are pages here on each.

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Recovery is part of the week

If a work event costs you the next morning, plan for that rather than being surprised by it. Treating the recovery as part of the commitment is what makes it sustainable.

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Rehearse it before you walk in.

Haveo builds your intro, lets you practice out loud with an AI coach, and keeps your notes one tap away in the room. Free on iPhone and iPad.

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Common questions

Should I tell my employer?
There is a page here on that decision. Almost everything above can be asked for without disclosing anything.
Is remote work better?
Often, for the sensory and interruption part. It removes the incidental contact too, which some people miss — worth deciding deliberately rather than by default.
What if I am doing the work well and still struggling?
That is the common pattern rather than a contradiction. It is usually the environment, and the environment is the thing with levers on it.
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