Haveo · How to follow up after meeting someone at a networking event

What to say in a coffee chat

You asked for it, so you run it. Open by saying what you are hoping to get out of it, ask three prepared questions, watch the clock yourself, and end on time even if it is going well. Ending early is what gets you a second one.

Open by naming the purpose

"Thanks for the time — I'm trying to work out whether to move into X, and you have done it, so mostly I want to hear how it actually went."

Thirty seconds. It stops them guessing what you want, which is the thing that makes these conversations drift.

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Bring three questions, not ten

"What does the work actually look like day to day?" "What did you not know before you made the move?" "What would make someone with my background a credible candidate?"

Three real questions fill twenty minutes easily, because good answers generate their own follow-ups.

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Do not ask them for a job

It converts a generous twenty minutes into an obligation, and it is the reason many people stop agreeing to these.

If you want them to think of you, the line at the end is: "if anything crosses your desk I'd appreciate a heads up." Once, no pressure.

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End it yourself, on time

At minute eighteen: "I said twenty minutes and I want to respect that — this was really useful." Then stop.

Nothing makes a second conversation more likely than visibly protecting their time in the first one.

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Send the thank-you the same day

Three lines. One specific thing you are going to do because of what they said. That last part is what makes them glad they did it.

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Rehearse it before you walk in.

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Common questions

Who pays?
You asked, so you offer. Most people will wave it away, and the offer still registers.
Video or in person?
Whatever is easier for them — say so explicitly when you ask. Making it easy is most of why people say yes.
What if I run out of questions?
Ask who else they would talk to in your position. It is the most useful question in the conversation and it is a natural ending.
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