Haveo · Social anxiety at work
Why video calls feel worse
Turn off self-view. Watching your own face for an hour is the single largest avoidable cost of a video call, and it is the one nobody thinks to change. No in-person meeting puts a mirror in front of you.
Self-view is the main problem
You are monitoring your own expression continuously, on top of following the meeting. That is a second task running the entire time.
Every major platform lets you hide it from your own screen while everyone else still sees you. It is the highest-value setting on this page.
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The turn-taking is genuinely broken
The small cues that tell you someone is about to finish are mostly gone, and the lag means you talk over each other.
So it is not you being bad at it. Saying your name first — "this is Sam, can I add something" — works because it replaces a cue that is missing.
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Use the chat
It is a legitimate contribution, it is often read out by whoever is chairing, and it is a way to make a point when you cannot find the gap.
Writing the point in chat also means it exists, whether or not you get to say it.
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Silence is not the same as in a room
Two seconds of silence on a call feels like ten and it is usually just the connection. Do not fill it with something you have not thought through.
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Cameras
You can ask whether camera-on is expected. Plenty of teams do not require it, and a whole day of back-to-back video is genuinely tiring for most people.
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Rehearse it before you walk in.
Haveo builds your intro, lets you practice out loud with an AI coach, and keeps your notes one tap away in the room. Free on iPhone and iPad.
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